Helping Christian Singles Date Wisely
Learn how to recognize red flags, avoid manipulation, and build healthy, Christ-centered relationships.
Meet Brian Howard
What began as a father’s desire to protect his daughters from emotionally unhealthy people grew into a book (or two).My motivation is to expose dating incompatibilites, manipulation, immaturity, and even mental illnesses, such as narcissistic personality disorder.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Rated 4.5 stars on Amazon • 1,600+ books sold"...it surely is a very informative and truthful book that justifies and exposes the truth in the church. Now I am recommending this book to my clients because I am a therapist and want them to see the truth. Much respect to the author." 👏 🙏
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📚 Books That Help You Recognize, Protect, and Heal
These books are especially helpful if you are:• Seeking Christian guidance for dating and marriage
• Trying to understand red flags and green flags
• Needing to set boundaries against manipulation and gaslighting
This book helps you recognize the warning signs early and understand the tactics used by the Christian narcissist.
Christians are taught to prioritize "equally yoked," but not how to recognize emotional health.
"...it surely is a very informative and truthful book that justifies and exposes the truth in the church. Now I am recommending this book to my clients because I am a therapist and want them to see the truth. Much respect to the author." 👏 🙏
-Verified Amazon Review"...This helped me to see I am not crazy... I gave a copy of this book to my Pastors at Church to read and keep for reference when counseling another victim...."
-Verified Amazon Review"...this is a very insightful look into the subject from a much-needed biblical perspective. I will re-read over time as I found the material invaluable."
-Verified Amazon Review"Excellent, straightforward guide to the red flags of a narcissist who claims to be a Christian and the boundaries we need to set to protect ourselves. The book is succinct and an easy read."
-Verified Amazon Review"Great read. Recommended highly"
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🌿 Educational Coaching & Recovery Support
If you're struggling to make sense of a confusing, emotionally draining, or spiritually manipulative relationship, these sessions can help you:
✔ Recognize narcissistic and emotionally manipulative behavior
✔ Develop healthy, biblical boundaries without guilt or confusion
✔ Rebuild self-worth grounded in your identity and security in Christ
Sessions are educational and not a substitute for licensed mental health counseling.
🎤 Speaking, Workshops, and Church Training
Popular Speaking Topics:
• Christian Dating Red Flags• The Christian Narcissist• Spiritual Manipulation• Healthy Boundaries• Character vs Chemistry
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Totally Forgiven by God!
No matter how many good deeds we think will earn us a ticket into heaven, our deeds won't be enough. Only holy people can enter heaven, and God’s standard of holiness is perfection. We are all guilty of breaking God’s perfect Law.However, the good news is that Jesus paid our penalty and took our punishment. On the cross, He bore the wrath of God for my sin, your sin, and the sin of anyone who repents and believes that His sacrifice is sufficient to save them. Our faith in Jesus’ finished work saves us from God’s wrath. Because of Him, we can stand forgiven before God. Free from guilt and condemnation!God’s mercy not only forgives but also promises that there will never be condemnation again. You are God’s fully forgiven child once and for all. You have eternal life, not just endless existence, but the very life of Christ Himself. Only one life is eternal, and that’s Jesus’. Therefore, you are grafted into the true Vine, the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. Into Jesus, the Tree of Life.In Him, we became new creations with new hearts and new desires for holiness. We can still choose to sin, but sin no longer has the power to rule us. Sin itself hasn’t died, but we died to sin. We were buried with Christ and raised to walk in newness of life. Dead to sin and alive to God!
1) God’s standard: the law shows us the truth about sin
Romans 3:19–20 teaches that the law makes the whole world accountable and gives us “knowledge of sin.”
Romans 7:7 adds that we come to know sin through the law.God didn’t give the law to save us. He gave it to expose what we really are: sinful. And to show we can’t fix ourselves by performance.2) The problem: we can’t justify ourselves by works
Romans 3:19–20 says that the law silences excuses and proves we’re not righteous by obedience.
Galatians 3:10 helps explain the result: anyone trying to stand on law-keeping ends up under judgment because no one can keep it fully.If the law is the standard, we fail. And failure doesn’t just mean ‘oops’; it means we need rescue.3) Why the law mattered: it was a tutor to lead us to ChristGalatians 3:24 — “The law has become our tutor to lead us to Christ, so that we may be justified by faith.”
Romans 10:4 — “Christ is the end of the law for righteousness to everyone who believes.”The law tutors us by revealing our need; then it points us to Jesus. The goal is not to live by the tutor forever; it’s to run to the One the tutor points to.4) God’s solution: righteousness comes through faith in Christ
Justification is by faith, not by law-keeping.
Galatians 3:24 says it plainly: we’re justified by faith.
Romans 10:4 says Christ is the end of the law for righteousness.You don’t get right with God by trying harder. You receive righteousness when you trust Jesus.5) The invitation: trust Christ and be made right with God
This is the moment of faith: calling on Jesus.Jesus isn’t just your example; He’s your righteousness. Put your trust in Him. Stop trying to earn what He gives. Receive forgiveness and acceptance by faith.