Brian Howard
Redeemed by Christ,
Anchored in Grace
I’m not a therapist. I’m not a relationship coach.
I’m not a fast-talking influencer.
I'm a freedom fighter.
I battle for the overlooked, the enmeshed, and the emotionally exhausted.
A fellow pilgrim who’s learned the hard way how deeply truth heals and how faithfully Christ restores.I write for the brave - those braving the truth about toxic love, trauma bonds, narcissistic abuse, and codependency.
Through Scripture, storytelling, and Spirit-led insight, I hope to help you recognize deception, set godly boundaries, and reclaim the identity that was never meant to be buried under fear or shame.You are not too broken.
You are not alone.
You are deeply loved.
Healing can begin right here!
Book #2
Unsuspecting Christian sheep are often lured into devastating relationships by the "Christian" narcissist. The days are over when we can assume Christians to be considerate, kind, or safe. We must look for red flags in Christians and non-Christians alike.
The church is full of wonderful people, but sadly, con artists too. This book exposes those wolves and equips the sheep to defend themselves.
A copy can be found at the link below:
Book #1
With a heart for helping others avoid toxic relationships and discover true connection, I write from both personal experience and a background in education. My goal is to empower Christians to discern character, set healthy boundaries, and walk in wisdom toward a God-honoring soulmate.
A copy can be found at the link below:
"...it surely is a very informative and truthful book that justifies and exposes the truth in church. Now I am recommending this book to my clients, because I am a therapist and want them to see the truth. Much respect to the author." 👏 🙏
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-Verified Amazon Review"...this is a very insightful look into the subject from a much needed biblical perspective. I will re-read over time as I found the material invaluable."
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Let's Start with the Bad NewsNo matter how many good deeds we think will earn us a ticket into heaven, our deeds won't be enough. Only holy people can enter heaven, and God’s standard of holiness is perfection. We are all guilty of breaking God’s perfect Law.However, the good news is that Jesus paid our penalty and took our punishment. On the cross, He bore the wrath of God for my sin, your sin, and the sin of anyone who repents and believes that His sacrifice is sufficient to save them. Our faith in Jesus’ finished work saves us from God’s wrath. Because of Him, we can stand forgiven before God. Free from guilt and condemnation!God’s mercy not only forgives, but His grace promises that there will never be condemnation again. You are God’s fully forgiven child once and for all. You have eternal life, not just endless existence, but the very life of Christ Himself. Only one life is eternal, and that’s Jesus’. Therefore, you are grafted into the true Vine, the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. Into Jesus, the Tree of Life.In Him, we became new creations with new hearts and new desires for holiness. We can still choose to sin, but sin no longer has the power to rule us. Sin itself hasn’t died, but we died to sin. We were buried with Christ and raised to walk in newness of life. Dead to sin and alive to God!
The Bad News — Our Sin and SeparationRomans 3:23
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,Isaiah 59:2
But your wrongdoings have caused a separation between you and your God,
And your sins have hidden His face from you so that He does not hear.Matthew 5:48
Therefore you shall be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.James 2:10
For whoever keeps the whole Law, yet stumbles in one point, has become guilty of all.Romans 6:23a
For the wages of sin is death…
The Good News — Christ Took Our PlaceIsaiah 53:5–6
But He was pierced for our offenses,
He was crushed for our wrongdoings;
The punishment for our well-being was laid upon Him,
And by His wounds we are healed.
All of us, like sheep, have gone astray,
Each of us has turned to his own way;
But the Lord has caused the wrongdoing of us all
To fall on Him.Romans 5:8–9
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from the wrath of God through Him.1 Peter 2:24
and He Himself brought our sins in His body up on the cross, so that we might die to sin and live for righteousness; by His wounds you were healed.John 19:30
Therefore when Jesus had received the sour wine, He said, “It is finished!” And He bowed His head and gave up His spirit.
How to Receive This Gift — Repent and BelieveMark 1:15
“The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand; repent and believe in the gospel.”Romans 10:9–10
that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved;
for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation.Acts 16:31
“Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household.”
What God Does — Forgiveness, Justification, and New LifeRomans 5:1
Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.Romans 8:1
Therefore there is now no condemnation at all for those who are in Christ Jesus.Hebrews 10:17–18
“And their sins and their lawless deeds
I will no longer remember.”
Now where there is forgiveness of these things, an offering for sin is no longer required.2 Corinthians 5:21
He made Him who knew no sin to be sin in our behalf, so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.
Our New Identity — United with Christ, Dead to Sin, Alive to GodRomans 6:4, 11
Therefore we have been buried with Him through baptism into death, so that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, so we too may walk in newness of life.
…so you too, consider yourselves to be dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus.Galatians 2:20
I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.Ephesians 2:4–6
But God, being rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us,
even when we were dead in our wrongdoings, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved),
and raised us up with Him, and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus.
Our Transformation — New Heart, New DesiresEzekiel 36:26–27
Moreover, I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you;
and I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.
And I will put My Spirit within you and bring it about that you walk in My statutes,
and are careful and follow My ordinances.2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, this person is a new creation; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.Titus 2:11–12
For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to all people,
instructing us to deny ungodliness and worldly desires and to live sensibly, righteously, and in a godly manner in the present age.
Eternal Union— Grafted into Christ ForeverJohn 15:5
“I am the vine, you are the branches; the one who remains in Me, and I in him bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.”Revelation 22:13
“I am the Alpha and the Omega, the first and the last, the beginning and the end.”